The reasons, the excuses and the mute

I believe in three types of people. The reasons, the excuses and the mute.

Decisions are hard. Period. They can hurt. As well. Both the ones making up their minds and the ones nearby. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. And there is nothing to be judged about that. You have got to a point in life where you are presented with an option or another way, and it is completely natural to do what is the best for you. Good for you! At the end of the day, you are who matters the most to you.

But it also matters how you handle it. How you go through with it. If in doubt, it is human instinct to justify ourselves, our decisions. The reasons are the ones who will be out and open, letting the truth take the blame. They are the bravest for standing to be judged, and for believing in their own right. The excuses will live up to this instinct fully by putting themselves in a light that others won't judge. Could be lies, could be exaggeration, and also could be done completely unintentionally. 

You must be thinking, nothing is worse than a bad excuse. You are wrong. They both stick up to themselves. This way or the other. They both care about the others, about what they think and what they feel. They both say something and try to put the other half to rest.

And then you get the mute. The one who just FO out of the blue. No questions answered. No turning back. Just the fatal cut off.

Now trust me from experience. Those are the nastiest ones. Those hurt the most. Because those mattered the most.